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How deep is your anchor? Where does is reside? in a person, place, or thing?

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We are all anchored to something.
Sometimes it’s an actual place or a person. It may be a habit, a recurring feeling or thought, or even a soul whispered journey. Often, in our modern society it is more a thing.
It may be felt outside of us, or on the inside of us. It may be strong and deep, or light and weak, or maybe there is no anchor at all…

sail dock holding
How deep is your anchor? is it a person, place, or thing?

Reading a biography by Susan, J. Tweit on her healing journey through nature and her connection to autoimmune disease and stress, I was reminded of something I’ve known for a long time, maybe I’ve known it always: we are guided home. always.

Home, however, is a relative term, isn’t it?

Where we set down our heart, there our home becomes. And so our anchor grows and gets cast out in our sea of life. This anchor no matter how deep or how well intentioned, if never adjusted, may cause more harm than good in the long run. As the stormy seas for an anchored ship may spell disaster, so an anchor originally dropped in a heart felt place, may encounter storms that are meant to carry us away, but succeed only in smashing us to pieces.

With an anchor dropped deep in life, clinging on to a thing, a construct carefully built up over time, we may be battered and possibly destroyed. The only recourse to a shift in our life’s weather storm is to move, flow and be carried on to a new place called home. Of course, this change is at times uncharted and we must trust that we have enough nourishment on board in our heart and soul and mind, to make it, wherever that ‘it’ may be.

Your anchor may be deep and strong, as long as you know how to release it in time for change. This timely release is a natural way to say yes to life, to allow for change to take a hold. Change is a way of life. Sometimes we must rest and sometimes we must be on the move. Places and people call to us everyday. If we are too anchored to a thing, we fail to notice this call. To hear. To listen.

As Susan Tweit writes:
” The malaise that captures us when we live in a place or culture that nurtures neither heart nor spirit may be telling us that we, like ET, need to honor the call to go home.”

Every once in a while, pick up your anchor and allow yourself to sail the seas of change, in your life.

 

What are you hungry for?

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What are you hungry for?

Is it sleep, food, sex, love, money, clothes, warmth, cold, time, fame, people? It’s always something isn’t it? Can we ever stop? Is it possible to stop the hunger?

The best-case, classic scenario: live life to the fullest so that you can look back on your life, as you lie on your death bed and feel fulfilled. That’s what people say.
Do you believe it?

I don’t.

The hunger isn’t for any of the above things. It isn’t hunger actually. Our self needing to grow and learn masquerades its pull as hunger. It is the self just being.

Seeking Growth. Seeking Change.

On your death bed you will not be ‘fulfilled’ or ‘happy’ if you had a lot, or just enough, or perfect harmonious balance of any of the above listed items. That’s a fallacy. Your mind will have remembered some things and forgotten others. Your heart will either be open or closed. Your soul always is and will be as you lay there dying. Your body will be spent, weathered, well used, tired, healthy, young, old, strong, or broken. The ‘hunger’, will it be satisfied?

Only if you discovered yourself, somewhere along the way. Don’t be a fool. Don’t look for yourself in others. It’s a waste of time. You may have fun, but will always end up at the starting line. If you believe that life is circular, then perhaps that doesn’t phase you at all. I prefer to see my life as an ocean. I may or may not return here, but I will never be the same. My plan is to die simply knowing today is enough.

If it is enough to live this way, it is enough to die this way.

Magical Power of the Written Word: Do More and Think Less

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Film Fest Parties 2011We read, we write, we talk, we hug, we eat, we go to parties, we sleep, we…

We do most of these wonderful actions effortlessly, often mindlessly, automatically, just to do them. Don’t we?

How often do we hear: “words have power”. Or “watch what you say”. In energy work and healing, we teach clients that all thoughts create action and determine the moments that will appear their lives. Sometimes, it can be quite overwhelming to have to be ‘mindful’ all the time. Just trying and thinking about being mindful can create anxiety. How can we do more, yet think less?

When I am trying to reduce stress levels, focus, create, grow and support my business, work with my clients, provide for my family, reach out to my friends, quite frankly, I get very tired of thinking. It’s exhausting!

I realized that one of my most powerful and magical tools is writing. No, I’m not getting back onto that screen play project just yet (but one day Toronto Film Fest spotlight will be mine!). Back to reality. I write my to do lists, everyday. Everyday, I sit down, place the large, lined paper planner in front of me and think of the ‘to do’ items that I wish to accomplish. I leaf through past days, past tasks, past notes, and am reminded of where I was, where I wish to go, and where I wish to be right now.

Sometimes, I even skip a day (I’m such a rebel) The writing-less days are FREE. Open days. Not days I lounge on the couch with Doritos and a can of coke (though that sounds nice right now!). I’m talking (writing) about days that are open to all possibilities and the path for events of the day is clear.  This gives me room to think and act, explore and be truly creative.

Why?
Well, when I write down items for the day and week, I find they get done!

And, I don’t even have to think about them throughout the day. The written words have tremendous magic for me. They pull me back. They hold me on course, to accomplish what is written. Thus, I have to be very careful about what I write, how I write, how much I define each task.

You see, this can be a positive or negative power: write too many needs and tasks to complete and you may find yourself running from one activity to another; write too little and your day ends up being filled with – (well with just about anything).

The written word is truly magical. It allows the hand to create your thoughts, places them on paper (or computer screen, though this isn’t nearly as satisfying, I find) and then links your thoughts to physical reality: your thoughts begin to exist as writing. You can read them, you ignore them, you can repeat them, you can edit them, or even burn them (poof! and they are gone)

Try this exercise for yourself:

Take 1 week and each day that week, write down what you wish to accomplish that day. The next morning, have a look at yesterday’s list. What happened? What worked and what didn’t? You may find that as the week progresses, your written word gets stronger and more magical.

Write me what happens!